They say that the man should be the head of the household. He should be the spiritual head. The ruler, the leader, the king, the (said in a big booming voice) MAN OF THE HOUSE. You know...the one who can dictate and rule all that happens in his house. And everyone in the house should unquestioningly follow him. We bow down at his feet and salivate waiting anxiously for his next command.
Okay. Stop laughing. I may have been a BIT over-dramatic there. No, really. You, my husband? Stop the laughing.
I think men are afraid to take that lead, though. They think it HAS to be this big, overly-dramatic thing.They think that we, as their wives, expect perfection...or that we expect something big and over-the-top to prove your manliness.
It is absolutely amazing to me what happens when the man of the house takes the lead on something. Everyone else follows suit. They don't do that with anything else or following after anyone else. Nope. Just dad. Just the husband. Just the man.
I don't know, really. It's not a conscious thing we do. We just...do. I have seen it time and time again in our family. Once Daddy takes the lead on something...it happens.
My husband has been a really GREAT example to us of late. He didn't set out to be an example. He didn't set out to change the way our family did anything. He just started doing what was right. What was right for all of us, really...but he was simply doing what was right and best for him at the time. He took a step outside of the door and started exercising. Just one step. Just one day. And then another the next. And the next.
Then something happened. The kids wanted to go. They wanted to join Daddy in his exercise. They started talking about fitness and about being healthier. We all did, as a family. Then Mom joined in.
Now, several months later, as a result of his example...and his bold step forward ONE day, his family is better off health-wise as a result.
Men, you really can effect change in your family. It doesn't involve you saying anything. It doesn't involve you doing something fantastic or overly-dramatic. It can be as simple as you walking for 30 minutes every day. Your family is watching and they really do look up to you, respect you, and want to follow your lead. Desperately.
Thank you, honey for being the example that we can follow. Thank you for taking that first step. Thank you for being someone we can look up to, respect, and someone whose lead we want to follow.
I love you. I'm so blessed to have married you. I couldn't have asked for a better husband or father for my children.