What happens when that's "just the way it is"?
What happens when a 13yr old girl has heard a constant stream of the men in her life talking about how if a woman is raped then it's her fault. She was asking for it. She was probably the one to blame.
That 13yr old girl stays silent.
Because *I* was that 13yr old girl. And I have NEVER spoken publicly about this.
In 26 years.
Because of fear.
Those closest to me, my kids, my husband...they know...but I have never gone public with what happened to me before now...or where the "man" who raped me (and 3 other girls who I know of) is today.
Because the rapes were never reported...4 of them...the "man" (a 16yr old kid at the time) who did this to us...is now a police officer. Who is married. With teen girls.
And all of that terrifies me.
There's an entire town we won't move to because of where this person works. Because I don't want to ever have to encounter this person.
Rape culture. Sexual assault. It's what all guys do, right? Us girls should just have to deal, right?
No. Not on my watch. Not in my house. Not in my America.
Not to my children.
They have been raised differently.